I'm 23. My parents have no guardianship or conservatorship over me. Anything they can legally use to withhold me like that would be news to me entirely.
I had made a plan over 3 months to move out of my parents home. I initially wanted to just disappear, but I notified 2 days in advance. The reason for this was 1. They wouldn't accept me moving out and 2. My partner is trans. They're highly transphobic and they never met. They actually used this fact to say they weren't trustworthy because they couldn't accept themselves, because they had a different government name, etc. My partner moved to another state, and I was just going with.
I was physically prevented from leaving. My parents spent the first of 2 days screaming at me how they had nothing to help me with if I fell off something happened. I am not looking for approval on my decisions mind you. I had a job waiting for me. My mom guarded the door and my father didn't allow me out of sight. My phone was also taken and searched through, in front of me, but not with my consent.
They started assuming my partner was trafficking me, has coerced me, was going to use/sell me for sex, etc. My friends called the police saying I was being held against my will and my phone was taken. I hadn't eaten all day and had not slept so I couldn't really even string together a sentence. Safe to say, I didn't get my phone back and my parents were just told to convince me to not go. They called everyone back saying I said I didn't know them, when I had specifically said I knew them and had pictures of them next to me on my phone. Which is true. I even offered to show them if they got me the phone back.
Right before the police came, my dad had tried to call my partner to tell them to not come using my phone. They were on the road and lost signal, so it looked like they hung up. My father loaded his gun right in front of me in preparation for my partner coming the next day.
After the police, my father called my partner (still on my phone) making threats to my partner's life if they came, saying he knew where their parent's live, etc. He threatened that if I happen to disappear within the next few weeks he'll show up at what would be our apartment and said "that's a knock you don't want."
They were going to physically bring me to a hotel and make sure I couldn't leave that either for a few nights. I told my partner to go home at that point. I didn't want them to get hurt. They also texted my partner multiple times, but the threats were over the phone only. Not through text.
It's worth mentioning that the morning after, my father said that if I tried to go again that he'd do something so drastic it'd be his goodbye to me, out of protection. He doesn't mind going to prison for what he thinks is protecting me, which makes me believe that a police escort won't stop him from pulling out his gun and shooting anyway. My mom said she'd start calling my partner's work claiming I was being abused, and threatened to slash tires of anyone who picks me up.
I know I should have told the police what I saw when they originally came, but I seriously hadn't eaten the entire day and slept maybe 2 hours. I had been screamed at all day starting at 9am. The police came at around 3 or 4 pm I think. I have very little concept of time because my phone got taken from me. My parents were calling me young and susceptible and not mentally ready to move out to everyone.
The next day they made me promise I'd not try to leave for at least the next few months or else they wouldn't trust me anymore. Every day they're trying to sit down and talk to me about it and constantly say "you're not going to try again right?" I kept being told how my mom is completely heartbroken and how they both need counseling now. I do believe my mom is extremely traumatized by this, but I'm not really close with my mom.
I'm now being monitored more closely and cannot leave the house without being questioned. Or at all right now really. I don't own my own car. They're also trying to convince me that I didn't want to actually do it since I didn't pack (I didn't want to raise suspicion) and that my parents are my sole support system and that my parents are the only ones that know me inside out, stating my partner knew nothing about me. They told me they'd have done the same exact thing if they had known longer. It'd just be a longer amount of time trying to stop me. They keep asking me if I want them to give up on me and telling me that the way I do it needs to be acceptable and not just "running away." They said that our plan wasn't thought out at all and just assumed I was trying to rush within 2 days to be with someone.
I have been told that regardless of their concerns, they had no legal right to hold me in the home against my will. I am asking this reddit because I'm looking into next steps. I have been told even if I'm currently safe physically, I'm unsafe in my home and was a victim of domestic abuse of some kind. I feel infantilized and not in any sort of control. I still intend on leaving but don't know how, especially since they already deemed me safe and fine during the wellness check that happened. I fear escalation immensely at this point and don't want to waste resources calling 911, which people have told me to do if I'm stopped again. I am afraid of trying to leave again and am trying to plan this out reasonably.
Location: California