I (20s) have an elderly neighbor (70) with some memory issues who I’m good friends with. Location: Washington state.
I see her every day and have known through conversation that she has “a girl who helps her manage bills and money”. This woman is an old coworker of hers who she trusted, and her name is on my neighbors bank account. The purpose of this is supposed to be that she’s responsible for making sure she has her groceries delivered, bills get paid etc.
She just opened up to me today that she hasn’t heard from this woman in months and she won’t return her calls, and my neighbor is worried that she’s being stolen from and doesn’t know how to check or who to turn to about it.
I went over to her house today to get more information about the situation like their agreement, any written confirmation of their agreement, who this woman is and if she’s even qualified to be doing this, and other things like looking at her bank statements to see what’s actually happening.
What i found was extremely disturbing- no calls within the last 3 months, no emails or texts in that same time except a few “i can’t talk right now” phone call rejection texts, and a LOT of very significant withdrawals from this “shared” account, including thousands of dollars towards some smallish business based in the town this woman lives in.
This woman has access to my neighbors checking account, keys to her house, and access to her email.
I don’t know how we got here, but my neighbor wants to go with me to the bank next week to change it asap, she had no idea anything like this was happening.
What the hell do i do? I want to make sure her locks get changed and this woman is locked out of all my neighbors assets, plus jail time for stealing probably hundreds of thousands of dollars at this point. Seriously pls help i need an adult to tell me what to do