[Location: NC] My estranged husband (M71) and I (F76) have had a tumultuous relationship from the very start. Although still legally married for 31 years, we have been legally separated via an Equitable Distribution Order for the past 9 years. I have never dated anyone else; however I did move on by building my own home after the sale of our marital home. He also built his own home about 25 miles from mine. We have continuously stayed in touch as he is retired military and he wanted me to keep my military dependent ID for medical reasons.
So, here’s the problem… he moved his girlfriend in with him in his new home. Things went fine for them for awhile; but after a little over a year, their relationship got chaotic. She called law enforcement on him, and he was advised to not go back into his home. Needless to say, he was in a desperate situation, and I offered him my guest room. He ended up having her evicted (which took several months) and then decided to sell his home and all furnishings (which took another couple months). All of this time he was living as a guest in my home — no lease, no rent, and definitely no reconciliation whatsoever between us. After he sold his home, he voluntarily started giving me some money each month, not rent, just a small contribution towards household expenses. After all this, he subsequently reconnected with this same girlfriend… unbeknownst to me while living under my roof! She became ill and was diagnosed with cancer. He visited her in the hospital, whereupon she eventually passed. He paid for her cremation, was acknowledged as a surviving “loving friend” in her obituary, and attended her memorial service. Throughout all of this, I have told him that he needed to find another place to live. Well, since she’s now dead, he thinks we should fix our marriage and has been falling all over himself trying to be the loving husband (which I reject absolutely), and trying to manipulate me to let him stay in my home. I want this man out of my home and out of my life completely!!! I know I’m guilty of being too kind. His coercion and manipulation is driving me crazy! My attorney said I’ll have to wait another year after he’s moved on to another address before I can file for a divorce! What can I do? Can I have him evicted?