Location: Sacramento, California
Hello, my mother is trying to divorce a man who, in retaliation, has stopped contributing to all of the expenses. He drives a tractor trailer and multiple times when a neighbor or friend of my mother has agreed to be around to serve him papers he will conviently remember that "He had to work" (He is an independent contractor and picks his own loads) or "He didn't want to divorce on valentines day" (He is an extremely abusive man and valentine's has never meant anything to him in the 20 years they have been married).
I went to serve him papers at midnight and my mother woke him up and told him I was coming and he left immediately and I no longer know where he is. It feels to me that his plan is just avoid being served divorce papers until my mother is out of money. He already said wants to claim everything as his (The House, the truck, all the cars, all the tools and crap) despite it all being in her name and most being owned by her before they were married, and fight every dispute as hard as he can
I feel very unequipped when it comes to the law and lawyers and I feel like I have no idea what my options even are. I asked my mother to just let me know if he comes home but I don't know if she will tell him I'm coming. She was distraught and crying when I arrived because she thought she could trust him and that he deserved to know. She also wasn't sure she could trust herself not to tell him.
I'm little lost and a lot worried. I don't have a ton of money myself. My brother wants to hire a private investigator to find him and make sure he gets served. To have the lawyer or a divorce processer it seems like I need to know where he will be and I don't. I don't know what to do.